Overview

• Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey have released So Gay for You: Friendship, Found Family, and the Show That Started It All, a memoir detailing their time on The L Word.
• Moennig writes that she felt trapped in a “pressure cooker” as journalists demanded she publicly define her sexuality during the show’s early seasons.
• Moennig credits friend Liz Feldman’s advice—“don’t come out, just be out”—for allowing her to explore her identity on her own terms.
• Hailey recounts acting as Moennig’s unofficial spokesperson by deflecting reporters’ persistent questions about her orientation.
• The book argues that social media now gives public figures greater control over their personal stories and underscores The L Word’s enduring impact on queer representation.