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Love Island Alum Jamie Jewitt Says Instant Paternal Bond Is a Myth

He recounts initial detachment at his children's births, urging new dads to let attachment grow through care.

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Overview

  • Jewitt published a Substack essay explaining he did not feel an immediate rush of love when his first child was born in 2020.
  • He argues that expecting both parents to experience the same instant bond is a damaging misconception given different maternal and paternal transitions.
  • He writes that many fathers quietly report feeling little at first, calling the experience common but rarely discussed.
  • He advises new dads that love often develops through day-to-day caregiving, telling them to give it time and keep showing up.
  • He later shared on Instagram that the piece prompted hundreds of supportive messages, saying he hopes the discussion helps others.