Grieving Woman Struggles with Stepsons' Behavior During Visits

Advice Columnist Suggests Asserting Rights and Making Significant Life Changes

A woman who recently lost her son is struggling with the behavior of her stepsons and their families during their visits.
The woman's husband does not support her or enforce rules with his children, leading to a chaotic and stressful environment.
The woman is considering leaving her home during the next family visit to avoid the stress, but fears her home will be in disarray upon her return.
Advice columnist Amy Dickinson suggests the woman assert her rights and consider making significant changes in her life.
Dickinson also highlights the husband's role in the family dysfunction and lack of respect towards his wife.