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Experts Urge Pre-Agreements and a Clear Stop Signal to Keep Holiday Gatherings Calm

Counselors also point families to anonymous, free help lines for support over the festive period.

Overview

  • Seasonal reporting notes that Christmas get-togethers often bring stress, tense discussions and arguments to the surface.
  • Psychologist Stefanie Pausch advises avoiding political debates at the table and proposing a short family agreement in advance, for example via a message in the family chat.
  • To prevent escalation, she recommends listening and asking questions rather than arguing, using humor, calling a clear stop signal and taking a break such as a walk, and she cautions that alcohol is no fix and can worsen aggression.
  • Practical tips from counseling services include planning the holiday schedule, setting taboo topics, lowering perfectionism, putting phones away for set periods and interrupting heated exchanges before they intensify.
  • Support is available through Rat auf Draht’s anonymous, free hotline at 147, with online appointments for parents and caregivers bookable via elternseite.at through January 5.