Advice Columnist Addresses Dilemma of Visiting Ill Former Lover

A man contemplates visiting a former lover now in declining health, questioning the appropriateness and potential impact of such a visit.

A man seeks advice on whether to visit a former lover, Deana, who is now in an assisted-care facility with MS.
Despite their past relationship, the man has retained admiration and affection for Deana, who is in declining health.
The advice columnist suggests examining motives and considering Deana's feelings before deciding to visit.
The man has not maintained a friendship with Deana since their breakup, raising questions about the visit's appropriateness.
The columnist advises contacting Deana to ask if she would welcome a visit, emphasizing respect for her current situation.